Topic: Does anyone else feel their illness and woes are starting to bore family and firends?
Does anyone else feel their illness and woes are starting to bore family and firends?
posted Wed, 16 Jun 2004 03:46AM
gayle
Hi there,
Is it just me or do you feel your family and friends are bored with ringing and asking how are you?... because they know you will turn around and say...the obligatory... oh I'm ok thanks!
I have found the more chemo I'm having the less people call me. text me etc... I feel as if everyone is fed up of 'Gayle' still being ill. In fact I feel guilty for being ill still.
Thanks for letting me have a moan.
Gayle
xx
bored?
posted Wed, 16 Jun 2004 04:38PM
Jeanmarie
Its good to have a moan sometimes though isn't it? I am fairly new to this site and have come across loads of previous postings where people mention the same things you have. Breast cancer is a long hard slog and sometimes people do get fed up with it, but sometimes it is out own fault for not being honest about how we feel - here's me talking and I sometimes feel the same way as you do - it's not easy! Perhaps when people ask you how you are you should take the bull by the horns ( so to speak) and say how guilty you feel about still being ill - I bet your friends and family would be so surprised you felt like this and would do their utmost to reassure you that they weren't bored and that the last thing you should feel is guilty-but perhaps they did believe that you really were 'ok' if thats what you have been saying. I know you probably don't want to worry them all the time ( as I said this has happened to me at times as well) but just try it out next time someone asks - and I hope you will be pleasantly surprised by the support you get. Good luck with all your chemo X
yes
posted Wed, 16 Jun 2004 06:11PM
alma
I was diagnosed with local reocurrence in March this year, and at the moment am having 19 radiatherapies to my auxilla, it obviously is a normal every day thing to do, and friends family no longer ask how many more! how do you feel, are you coping, when I told my mother they had offered me more chemo, she replied 'you don't want that it made you sick last time', someone noticed? So one realises quickly its my life and get on with it and be selfish, do what you want not what you think everybody else wants.
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posted Wed, 16 Jun 2004 07:07PM
JennyG
I agree. My friends have stopped phoning as often now. Actually one of them (whom I would call my bestie mate) phones once every 2 weeks!
I have lots of aunties and uncles who, in the beginning, phoned often, but I hardly hear from them now.
Maybe the fact that it's been 9 months since my diagnosis they feel I should be 'over it', and no-doubt they are fed up of asking the same questions and me giving the same answers.
Although I understand their lives go on regardless of my BC, I do feel hurt that I'm being left behind and forgotten by some people.
And believe it or not..........I'm bloody bored with BC too.!
yes
posted Wed, 16 Jun 2004 10:08PM
Molennium
mole
It is amazing
posted Sun, 27 Jun 2004 02:14PM
sgtmajgirl
I heard from people that I haven't talked to or seen in years when I was diagnosed and I agree with some of you.. it is like I began chemo and the phone calls & emails stopped... I guess I suprised them when they asked how I was I told them I was doing fine.. I guess Misery loves company and I wasn't willing to join in the fun! Hang in there everyone..