I was lying on the sofa today after my 2nd FEC yesterday. The postie rang the door bell and had to wait all of 3 - 5 minutes whilst I got out from under the duvet and found the front door key, I answered in my dressing gown and with my sleep cap on over my bald head and he looked at me and said "oh, someone is alive then" in a testy way. I was soooo tempted to say "yes, thankfully, still!" Jeesh!
Thanks Julie for your post. I am very tempted to send the last bit about what people can do to those people who haven't been around but then I think, what good would it do. Those that I love and those that I hardly knew that have come out in force to love me and care for me are making me feel incredibly blessed, the others - well - I don't know how good I would have been for someone with BC prior to this but I do know that I will be a better friend to someone with cancer, any kind, or life changing illness, after this.
I must say my someone black sense of humour got the better of me recently. I was talking to my bank about consolodating a couple of cards to make payments easier under the current circumstances. She went through it all with me, and then launched into payment protection, how it was good, what it would help with, how I should take it up. I replied, I dont think it's relevant and it wont work for me sadly (I had already explained I was undergoing treatment for a recurrance of a previous illness) she kept on and asked why I though that, I replied 'because I have cancer and I am pretty likely to die'
tumbleweed moment
I apologised to her, she laughed nervously and didn't mention payment protection again!!!
Ah well, I thought it was funny, but then I have a weird sense of humour, like telling my Mum it's ok, I have a black estate car, saves on costs of funeral cars, just slide me in the back of that. Lucky my Mum has same humour (ps, I aint planing on dieing anytime soon!)
Just back from a messy play group with my three-year-old son. The organiser took one look at my wig and said 'Oh Cat, how lucky you are to be able to wear such lovely wigs. I wish I could, too!' I offered to swap positions with her, she's more than welcome to the wigs and BC!
I just went to my christmas party and someone I hadn't seen since before i has BC said to me "i hope you have changed your lifestyle" This woman has to be about 6 dress sizes bigger than me and likes a drink so not really sure what it is I should be changing.
Not sure if this has been mentioned before, but I got sick to death (ha!) of being told to 'think positive' whilst feeling like 100% shit. I felt I'd hit the next person who said it.
Me again, I remembered what my sister said when I first told her of my DX. I phoned her from a car park on Weymouth seafront (don't ask) to tell her and she burst into tears. When I asked why she was so upset she said because she was worried she might now get it!
This might sound mean but I can't forgive that and she is now out of my Will! You sure do find out who really cares at times like that.
(She did demand a mammogram from her GP who told her the risk was slight and mammo turned out fine.)
People say the strangest things!! My friends mother said to me the other day " Oh well, they are neither use nor ornament!" Dont know how I didnt slap her!!!
Hi all, I have four sisters and one brother, my brother has been brilliant visiting me telling me how proud he is of the way I am coping, two sisters who are also brilliant, and one sister who has phoned me twice since May and one sister who hasn't contacted me at all, she used to send me a birthday and Christmas card now they seemed to have stopped. It does hurt but stick by the ones who care for us. Take care love junieliz
All I can say is, Junieliz, at least you have a large family so can afford to let a couple go by the wayside, even if temporarily! There is absolutely no accounting for how people will behave when someone is DX with cancer.