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Is the size of the lump a major factor?

I've just found out this evening that my mum (58) has a very small cancerous lump near her right nipple. It's so small that the docs couldn't feel it but it showed up on the scan and was confirmed as cancer during the biopsy. She is booked in to have t...

Posted by claire82 on Tue Sep 07, 2010 10:01 pm with 3 comments

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Hi Claire just to wish you and your mum well. I couldn't feel my lump it was found on routine mammo. Surgeon and Onc couldn.t feel it either but it was a grade 1 cancer and was 21mm when it was removed. Size is just one of the things taken into conside...

libby 2010, Tue Sep 07, 2010 10:40 pm
Angry, worried, resigned, everything

Hi all, Don't know how to sum it up really, so strange thread title as we seem to be going through all the emotions. My wife found "the lump", she/we went and did the tests which had to go the way we didn't really want or expect and confirmed that wa...

Posted by zzippy on Tue Aug 17, 2010 10:08 pm with 20 comments

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Hi Zippy and Sue just to say, I am a year down the line and had the same worse than expected results after surgery, 20/25 nodes affected. It's a real blow and took me a day or two to accept. But my bone and ct scans were clear and I took chemo and rad...

Flora29, Tue Sep 07, 2010 5:31 am
Mum with BC

Hi, I posted on hear just over a year ago, soon after my mum (77) began treatment for her BC. SHe had had symptoms for 2 yrs, but ignored them, and by the time she did seek help the cancer had spread to her lung, lymph nodes and nodules in her stomach...

Posted by Jen on Fri Sep 03, 2010 9:21 am with 2 comments

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Thanks Ann. My mum also has it in her bones, in addition to the lymph nodes around her collar bone, her lung (through the chest wall), her skin, and nodules in her stomach area. After speaking to the cancer nurses at her hospital yesterday I have fou...

Jen, Sat Sep 04, 2010 9:52 am
Family Members Forum??

Hi, My mum has secondary cancer and I'm 25. I would really love to be able to talk to people in the same situation as me and around the same age. Does anyone know if there is a forum for people who's parents have secondary cancer or just cancer? Some...

Posted by tinkerbel_2008 on Wed Sep 01, 2010 9:58 pm with 4 comments

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Hi Leah, Thank you for your message. Since I posted this topic I have had about 3 messages from different people saying that they are in the same boat as me and roughly around the same age. I think it is important for people like myself who just want ...

tinkerbel_2008, Fri Sep 03, 2010 10:05 am
Ongoing emotional support anyone?

Does anyone with a mother or close relative with cancer want to correspond through private message to support each other? I feel a bit dazed by it all (my mum has been diagnosed with triple neg BC and just has a masetecomy, now awaiting chemo and then ...

Posted by overtherainbow on Fri Jul 16, 2010 11:56 am with 3 comments

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Hi, my mum has secondary cancer. She had radiotherapy 8 years ago and then last year it flared up again and she had chemotherapy. It's now spread and unfortunatley it has flared up again so she's started taking oral chemo tablets. I'm 25 and live wit...

tinkerbel_2008, Wed Sep 01, 2010 10:02 pm
I'm scared for my mum

Hi everyone. I just joined the site because I found out yesterday that my mum has grade 2 breast cancer and we haven't found out yet whether it's spread to the lymph nodes. She told me a few weeks back that she was getting a lump checked out but I didn...

Posted by Kiwiibean on Fri Aug 13, 2010 11:37 pm with 5 comments

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Happy to help. In my diary I think i've only written in it a couple of times but you do it when you feel you need to off load. I know what you mean though and completely understand. It's perfect when you have just had enough and feel like no one is ...

tinkerbel_2008, Tue Aug 31, 2010 11:28 am
Its come back....

My mum had breast cancer back in 2006, she successfully beat it through Chemo and Radiotherapy but now its back, this time it has spread to her lungs :o( She is still having further tests to see if it has spread anywhere else, and the docs seems opti...

Posted by Vetty on Thu Jun 24, 2010 2:26 pm with 2 comments

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Hi, you are not alone. My mum had chemo 8 years ago and she first had radiotherapy, it then came back 1.5 years ago and she had chemotherapy due to finding the lump under her arm had moved and had got a bit bigger. She also has it in her lungs and se...

tinkerbel_2008, Fri Aug 27, 2010 9:55 pm
New relationship post lumpectomy and rads

HI Anybody been in this situation ? Last year I had such a rubbish time with a relationship ending and of course the joy of BC to deal with. However, things have turned around and are looking up in so many ways. I have been on a date with a new chap an...

Posted by annalou24 on Tue Apr 06, 2010 6:12 pm with 37 comments

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Glad your results were good Anna. Got my 1st annual mammo on Tuesday !

gocat, Sun Aug 22, 2010 3:07 pm
Mum newly diagnosed - why all the waiting?

Hi everyone, So glad I've found this forum, I need to understand what's going on. My Mum told me last week she's been diagnosed with BC in both breasts, she's 58. It started 5 weeks ago with her finding a lump and going to her GP, who found another. S...

Posted by ~Ruby~ on Thu Aug 19, 2010 1:06 pm with 11 comments

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Hi Ruby- I can see things from your mother's perspective as I am near to her age - and am a mother (and grandmother) with BC. I was picked up on a routine screening but had no symptoms at all : my previous screening had been 3 years before so goodn...

topsymo, Fri Aug 20, 2010 2:57 pm
New Member in the Forums

Hello all I have just joined the forums to gain an insight into how everyone feels and copes with having what you all call 'bc' I am an Office Manager, and one of my 'girls' was diagnosed 5 weeks ago and has just had her 2nd dose of chemotherapy. I a...

Posted by EllieJ143 on Wed Aug 18, 2010 2:04 pm with 6 comments

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Hi ElliaJ, As another resident OH here, I'd like to echo what everyone else has said. I wrote a blog article here: http://light.ofmylife.org/2010/03/11/return-to-work-an-inspiring-milestone/ that illustrates how not to do it, though you of all people ...

jansman, Thu Aug 19, 2010 9:57 am
problem with a husband

Hello all, My friend is not registered with the site (PC problems) and has asked if she may post something through me. I will pass over to her now, because she has a situation regarding her hubbie that she would like some advice sbout, from women who ...

Posted by happyshopper on Thu Jul 15, 2010 4:11 pm with 18 comments

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alisonm Have just started to read the book you recomended "Feel the fear and do it anyway" and finding it very helpful and can see myself doing the things they say. Would recommend this to anyone else who finds they are holding themselves back from doi...

scobie, Fri Aug 13, 2010 9:50 pm
Mom just diagnosed

Hi all. My Mom has just been diagnosed & has to go for op in a couple of weeks. Feeling totally shell shocked because Mom is never ill - she's always been the steady rock and it's actually Dad who is the one usually needing care. I'm obviously going...

Posted by BettyBlue on Fri Aug 13, 2010 2:32 pm with 1 comments

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Dear BettyBlue Welcome to the BCC forums where I am sure you will receive lots of valuable support from your fellow users. In addition I am posting to the BCC publication which is a resource pack for those newly diagnosed, you and your Mom may find t...

Lucy BCC, Fri Aug 13, 2010 2:50 pm
Results tomorrow

A couple of months ago my mum was diagnosed with BC. She had a mastectomy and somehow came out of the operation smiling only to hear that the tumour was much bigger than they expected and that it has spread to all of the lymph nodes that they removed. ...

Posted by Em24 on Mon Jul 26, 2010 9:26 pm with 6 comments

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Hi EM24 Really pleased you talked to your Mum,and everything is out in the open. Hope your Mum can come on here and perhaps get a bit of support! the chemo is the easy part! the scans and worrying about results is the worst! What chemo is your Mum hav...

sandra4, Mon Aug 09, 2010 5:46 pm
Need to let off steam!

It is 2.30 in the morning and I was laying in bed winding myself up, so decided to get it out of my system as I will never get back to sleep! The problem is my family - they just dont understand what I am going through. I have had a masectomy and I am ...

Posted by Lizzy P on Sat Aug 07, 2010 3:53 am with 11 comments

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HI Lizzie sorry to hear you are at such a low ebb. Unfortunately, as it is often the case with traumatic experiences, unless you have ACTUALLY lived through the same one yourself, you just don't know what it feels like. THat is why I get a lot of comfo...

Lulu60, Sun Aug 08, 2010 9:46 am
Husbands and family

Can anyone explain the workings of the mind?? d-in-law had breast cancer, 2 small children - on surface coped very well with treatment and Mast. but underneath many problems. Mental breakdown before Christmas left family to stay with Mother - returne...

Posted by chiefwren on Thu Jul 29, 2010 11:31 am with 29 comments

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Hi Jai - we are a few weeks ahead of you. My wife was diagnosed early June. The stage you are at now is a very scary place. you know you have cancer, but beyond that you don't know much. You see all sorts of scary tales and see them happening to you. ...

LargerBloke, Fri Aug 06, 2010 8:55 pm
3 years on and Im hurting just as badly.

Hi all this is my first post here, and Id just like to apologise in advance for its negative nature but its how Im feeling. I lost my mum 3 years ago aged 66 to breast cancer. Yeah my parents worked so hard their entire lives and their reward for that...

Posted by MissYouMum on Tue Aug 03, 2010 6:28 pm with 13 comments

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Thankyou again to everyone for their advice, kind words and support. It really does help. This is a great little community x

MissYouMum, Fri Aug 06, 2010 4:31 pm
problems with children

my lovely 15 year old son has reduced me to tears yet again. he is demanding why im not back at work i had wle and snb on 1 dec and rads starting in jan. all 3 kids refuse to help around the house or at least want an arguement first. im struggling to s...

Posted by tippy1 on Sun Dec 20, 2009 7:23 pm with 7 comments

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Hi Sandra Many thanks for your kind words. He is a sensitive child and doesn't give a lot away- just like his Dad. We decided from the start that we would be honest with the children.I would hate to tell them one thing and for them to overhear someth...

AndiFloss, Sat Jul 31, 2010 6:55 pm
Getting on with life after cancer

Hi, My sister was diagnosed with breast cancer a year ago. She was pregnant at the time and had to start chemo straight away. She has gone through chemo, giving birth, a mastectomy and radiotherapy in the last year. Today is her first mammogram sin...

Posted by owl on Wed Jul 07, 2010 3:36 pm with 7 comments

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im coming up to my one year anniversary next month too. Got my mammo beginning of Aug. I like the thought that bc was in our past, not our future. thanks for the positive way of thinking about it. eva

eva-nicole, Fri Jul 09, 2010 10:16 am
What's going to happen now?

Ok so I'm new to this. my mum was diagnosed about 3 weeks ago, with a tiny lump. She had it, and one of her lymph nodes, removed. The latter just as a precaution. Yesterday, she got her results back and was told what treatment she needed. The shock wa...

Posted by Rachelf_92 on Fri Jun 25, 2010 11:40 am with 16 comments

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Hi Rachel - I hope your mum is feeling OK. The diagnosis and treatment of cancer is so horrid. My children are 11 and 8 - but in reality you are young enough to be my daughter! I thought you might like to read my blog - a number of people who have be...

red shoes, Wed Jul 07, 2010 11:21 pm
Mum has breast cancer

Found out my mum has breast cancer 3 weeks ago, it is to far gone to have the lump removed so has to have a mastectomy and lymph nodes removed along with reconstruction. I am 17 years old and so far have been pretty strong, however today I feel shaky a...

Posted by cherryblossom17 on Tue Jun 29, 2010 7:10 pm with 20 comments

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Hi Sabrina2 I just wanted to say that we have a whole set of info for teenagers called breast m8s. It's aimed slightly younger than you are, but it might be a good starting point: http://www.breastcancercare.org.uk/breast-cancer-breast-health/breast-a...

Leah BCC, Wed Jul 07, 2010 10:25 am
Website for husbands

My wife died in January 2009, after nearly five years of good life from the time of diagnosis of incurable breast cancer. I have now written a website at http://www.mywifehascancer.info to pass on to other men what I learned during the journey. I hop...

Posted by cleaford on Thu Apr 16, 2009 10:40 am with 13 comments

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The website for husbands at http://www.mywifehascancer.info continues to be accessed daily. We have just added a new link to a supplier specialising in lingerie for ladies who have undergone cancer related breast surgery and reconstruction. We realis...

cleaford, Mon Jul 05, 2010 10:01 am
Sad after my mum's mx

My mum had her masetectomy yesterday but for the last few days I felt really calm and was coping ok. I think it's because she was. Then today I spoke to her and she's in quite a lot of pain with her wound, and has been sick. For some reason this the fu...

Posted by overtherainbow on Wed Jun 30, 2010 11:39 am with 3 comments

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Thank you Lucy I think I will give them a ring. I don't mean to keep on I just feel so upset about it all. I don't live near my mum which makes it harder. Going to see her next week...so worried

overtherainbow, Sat Jul 03, 2010 11:06 am
My sister 37 has been diagnosed with BC

Hi all I have posted this on behalf of new user Sami Regards Louise Facilitator Morning - anyone out there who can give me ANY advice/help??? Facts are; My sister (aged 37) found a lump last monday which was C5 BC - diagnosed and operated on wit...

Posted by Louise BCC on Thu Jul 01, 2010 11:40 am with 2 comments

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hi sami, iwas diagnosed aged 36 in march, totally out of the blue, i have 2 boys aged 5 and 2. Your sister and entire family will be in shock and turmoil, it is totally normal. My sisters and mum have been a fantastic support to me, mum has been amaz...

tors, Thu Jul 01, 2010 8:13 pm
Scared

I imagine I'm okay and then I speak to my mum and BANG, the reality hits me in the face. She's having a masectomy next week and apparently all the lymph nodes are being removed too, as a precautionary measure. I don't know why but I'm suddenly crying h...

Posted by overtherainbow on Mon Jun 21, 2010 8:00 pm with 7 comments

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Thanks for your support Sandra. My mum finds it hard to reach out for help but I will certainly encourage her to post on here. It can be so much easier and less isolating to know others are going through the same thing...but on the flip side I think i...

overtherainbow, Wed Jun 23, 2010 1:59 pm
My mum's been diagnosed

Hello, I'm new to the site and have joined because my mum has recently been diagnosed with grade 2 breast cancer that has spread to the lymph nodes. I feel really terrified especially as we're not an especially open family and she has a tendency to ke...

Posted by overtherainbow on Fri Jun 11, 2010 6:01 pm with 9 comments

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Thanks both for you for the advice, I will definitely look the centre up. My mum hasn't been taking anyone with her but I can see the advantage of doing so and will try to persude her. She's a very private person though so not sure she will like to ha...

overtherainbow, Wed Jun 16, 2010 9:31 am

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